Relax (放松 Fang Song)
Westerners say “relax.” Chinese say “put it loose.” Distinct difference. In the western mind it is a state the we often don’t reach. But if you just put it loose…it seems a little more realistic.
The term also advocates a flow and ease in the body, which of course, affects the meridians that run their course from toes to arms and head. If you bring your attention to your shoulders right now, notice the position they are in, let the inhale come down into your belly, nice and full, and as you exhale naturally, let your shoulders be loose. Notice how much you just relaxed there. Wow, how often are you holding your shoulders in that way? As you brush your teeth, as you cut vegetables, write an email, as you do anything in your day…how much are your shoulders unconsciously being held in a state of tension?
Then take this concept into your whole body.
Example, your stomach. If your stomach is not nourished and taken care of, the stomach meridian will experience a depletion (or an engorgement), which realizes itself in your body and your mind. Over-thinking, excessive worry, obsession, are all results of an imbalanced stomach. The less you care for what you eat, the more you worry, the more you worry, the less (or more) you want to eat, and so imbalance is fostered in the stomach. Vicious cycle, ya follow? Ulcers, indigestion, heartburn, any stomach related issue cause the mind to over think. A person with a happy stomach (well-fed, mothered) has a sound, grounded mind. Someone overwrought with worry is “suffering” from the imbalance in the stomach/spleen meridian. Consequently, if one becomes aware of this “mental” behavior, they might “try” with all their might to relax their mind, but because the stomach meridian is already out of whack, the mind cannot steer the stomach back to balance. This is where the acupuncture and acupressure come in handy.
Acupuncture and acupressure encourage flow in the meridians by unblocking places of congested qi. If you’ve been for years in a viscous cycle like this, the TCM will retrain the body’s energy to flow in the original, natural way it used to (we are all born generally in balance). As this flow becomes easier, the mind follows this health and balance, and also becomes healthy and balanced, i.e. a relaxed state of body and mind.
Of course, acupuncture and acupressure can only do so much. The patient must also change their habits to promote the natural flow and health that is occurring on an energetic level. Caring for the “earth” element (of the 5 element cycle – water-wood-fire-earth-metal) involves eating at beneficial times (1st thing in the morning, a nice lunch, smaller dinner that happens before 8pm).
~~Practicing good habits for healthy meridian flow~~
We are all creatures of nature. It is when our meridians are in imbalance that our mind takes over, and we slowly drift out of awareness of what is, into what we believe is true. Example:
“Oh my right leg is shorter than the left. I have pain in my back. But that’s just the way my body is. My mother has the same problem. It runs in the family.”
This statement is LOADED with belief. All advocating a numbness in our bodies, because that’s just the way it is.
This is usually not the case. Somehow, this person’s ailment is adopted from the same movements and habits of his mother. Likely that he would pick up from years and years of being raised by his mother, the same movements and positions to hold himself in. Usually with the “one leg longer” problem, it is more muscular-based. We experience some injury (emotional, physical), our bodies are compensating through posture, the muscles are tight, weak and/or injured, and slowly over time, muscles somewhere in the body are tighter and pulling, which causes more tightness and inflexibility, which pulls on our bones, which creates this distortion. Back pain? Really. Not a surprise at all, because the muscles are also pulling on the spine.
Acupuncture, acupressure, and deeper awareness practices (yoga, meditation, tai qi, etc) will resolve this person’s problems over time. They will have to undergo radical changes that happen SLOWLY over time as they follow a healing process that re-aligns the qi in the body. As I follow my own healing process, I am in awe at how much better I feel, physically, mentally, emotionally, energetically.
So, practicing good habits that follow a natural schedule of the body’s own “organ cycle” (our bodies are naturally synchronized with our day, night, and season).
Let’s think of how it used to be, back before technology and electricity.
3am -5am Dawn. Light comes, we awaken, we are quiet)
5am-7am Morning Sun. Breakfast
7am-9am Mid morning. Tasks for survival, cleaning, preparing, planning the day
9an-11am Work.
11am-1pm Replenish and Rest
1pm-3pm Work some more
3pm-5pm Prepare dinner
5p-7pm Eat
7pm-9pm Quiet time awake with family
9pm-11pm Getting sleepy or already asleep
11pm-3pm Sleep
And what do we do these days?
7am – 8am WAKE, Shower, Dress, Run out the door
8am – 9am Commute to work
9am – 6pm WORK (Maybe cram in some lunch)
6pm -7pm Exercise (if we’re organised enough)
7pm – 9pm Eating, drinking
9pm -11pm Some of us go out and continue drinking, some of us watch TV, some of us do both
11pm – 1am surfing the internet, probably drunk or, some of you not, but still, surfing the internet
1am – 2am should be asleep
2am – 7am sleep and then wake groggy and not so happy about the repeat process of this.
Oh but hey, there’s always Friday to get pretty wasted and spend the rest of the weekend recovering, or, pushing through it to do as much as you can before you have to go back to work on Monday.
Of course, I am generalizing. I know we all aren’t this way, but you’re probably laughing cuz you do that or you’ve done that. I used to.
Practicing good life habits include what and when you eat, when you sleep, when you work hard, when you relax…it follows a natural cycle.
Another example. Me. In late 2007, I was living with my amazing friend Frances, who was finishing her studies in TCM. She also happens to be an amazing cook. My Shifu (gongfu teacher) was giving me massage and would talk with me about practicing better habits. He would always talk to me about eating breakfast first thing when I would wake up. Ugh. The thought of putting anything in my body before 11am was nauseating. I was always in the beautiful habit of waking up around 8am and making myself coffee (bialetti italian espresso) with milk. I would enjoy the morning drinking coffee and writing. I’d usually have 2 big cups, sometimes more.
Liu Shifu would tell me about having “zhou” in the morning. Zhou is congee. Congee is the leftover rice from the night before, boiled down in alot of water until it become more “porridge” textured. Zhou can be made with just rice, or you can add beans or barley or other grains to it. Add a little of some fresh leaf vegetable like spinach, pea sprouts, jielan (chinese broccoli) and fry an egg in soysauce or boil an egg. Put it all together and it is DELISH.
Zhou is very kind to the stomach. It’s soft, simple, warm, nourishing, and moisturizes. Savory (salty) is easier on the stomach than sweet. Sweet is “fire” causing, and you don’t wanna do that to yourself. Trust me.
Frances is Thailand-born, Taiwanese who also grew up in the US and had spent 7 years in Beijing attending school. While we lived together, I got to learn first hand much more about Asian and Western cooking. I am from a family who did not rejoice in food. I always thought of myself as “someone who didn’t know anything about cooking.” I am also the type of person who learns through watching someone else do it. I watched Frann, and all my other foodie friends, and practiced cooking for myself.
As with practicing ANY skill/habit, at first you are learning, and it’s uncomfortable, but you keep practicing, and it gets easier and easier.
In 2007, for the first time in my life for probably 15 years, I starting eating breakfast. At first, I started small. A piece of toast. Add an egg. Then zhou. It’s 2011. 4 years of establishing good eating habits, cooking for myself, and now, joyfully cooking for others, getting excited about markets and food and taking pictures of what I cook. Joyful practice. Easy.
“Follow the natural path. 顺气自然”
First cultivate inner awareness. Usually we are numb in our bodies, from years of crap/unnatural habits. As awareness deepens, the healing process deepens and expands in to every aspect of life. Change is immediate, and happens naturally, rather than forcefully. Because you are cultivating health and flow in yourself, this will also permeate into your daily life practice, resulting in ease of your mind, body, energy and experiences.
Stay tuned for more blogging, Grasshoppers. It seems I have much to say. If you would like to share your thoughts, or have questions, you can email me at jessmeider at gmail.com.